Ajab Prem Ji Gazab Kahani

When I was introduced to the concept of marriage through Portal, I found it quite amusing. In my dictionary, God had paired each of us with our soul mate, and we shall find that person anywhere, but not through applying filters on a god dam site..

To My surprise I realized that actually these guys managed to hook up aaallloooot of people!! One such story is of my best friend who recently found her match through a "Surprise me" setting, and least did she thought she would marry that man..

Crazy!! But that's what the tittle just said..( How an American Gujarati marries an India Punjabi Girl)

So A Girl of an eligible age, has to marry. with no boyfriends, no crush, to the saviors comes .com's.. and the search begins..so its a catalog, from which u get to pick, what type, size, height, weight, color, breed, look, city, country, package guy u need...pheww

Introducing, a cute bubbly, day dreamer girl, with a big list of what kind of guy and wedding she wants, in her world she has always managed to have a lot of friends, and things according to her, leading a hyper active life and prim proper life...and Our hero, is a dude who stays in Florida, a financial analyst (BIG MONEY), whoz day often ends with a beer, movie, cozy couch and a lazy dog.. world around him is pretty laid back, in his world there are no rulez, and if they exist, they are meant to be bended or broken..

After several rejecting people and coffee meetings, blushing, dressing up..she sat lazy in her bed, pampering herself with chocolate, surfing net, least in the mood of find "THE MATCH" for her..on the other hand in a different part of the world, a guy, also tired of these "sites"..was about to delete the app from his phone, to his surprise he found a "surprise me" link, and he clicked on it..love struck, and with the background music of "rab ne bana di jodiiiiii", the invite reached our rock star.

She then gets mail, and ping, and whats app from him,and she gives it a glance and ignores it..but then the courtesies force to reply back, to actually find the man interesting..Over a lot of chats, call, text. violins play in the background , cupids are flying with there aims set..and finally love strikes both of them (zor ka jhatka dheere dheere laga)

The love birds were then striving to meet, aab mille kaise???..American Gujrati, and Ghaziabady punjabi came with an idea, to meet in No mans land "Dubai"..

Now breakfast, lunch, dinner and drinks were good enough to make them decide, that yes this is it!! (Jab dil mille mille mille dil mille tab bill bade, dollar ghate)..The man Proposed in a typical Bollywood istyle to our girl... goes on his knees, take out a stunning solitaire, dim lights, music an emotional speech, family around(bhagne ka koi scope nahi)..and our blushy Bride says a "YES".. west meets the north, and celebrations begin.. dates final, and the D days approaches..

Its is strange how 2 people, belonging to different cultures, different countries, having no link, or scope of ever finding each other, actually became soul mates, through a click.

Now we the Anxious friends, who had heard alot about this mystery man finally gets to meet him..

I have to agree, the fact that he is perfect match in every sense to what our friend always wanted, deserved, wished.. so over the wedding proceedings, we realized that they were meant to be with each other, perfectly blended choices, understanding the hint of the eyes, well coordinated things, with  matching to the expectations of each other, the support they provided, patience and persistence for each other, could hardly make an outsider guess that its an arrange marriage they are attending which came into existence, in the most unusual way..

At the end, our bride following her dream, holding the man, sure of the fact that he is the one for her..and he comforting her, merges in her existence ensure she gets what ever she wishes in life..Accepting the vows (saanu vi prem che prem che prem che) step out to start a new life..

In the end we learn, love need not enter your life the cliche way, but there is love for you for sure..and it is rightly said "love knows no boundaries"..(Shu baat saras che)

This definitely tempts me and reassures me, that someone somewhere is meant for me tooo...

You never know you might get to read My Tale of 2 cities <3 <3 next...

What A Women Wants!!

What do women want? It’s the age-old question.

So what is it that women really want, if it is not a life focused on production and domination, nor does she want to lead the way? What she wants, as a woman, and as a human being, is the freedom to fully express and receive love and if not appreciated but acknowledged for all she does to ensure she provides all that her family, her loved ones need.

What women want from men/partner is confidence. Confidence... not arrogance, not dominance, not one-upmanship, not macho heroics. Relationship satisfaction has a lot to do with the way partners are able to read and empathize with each other’s emotions. For women, that applies more to their negative emotions than their positive ones: women are happy when their boyfriend or partner understands they’re upset, or what they need... When they feel that things do happen or revolve as per there wishes.

For Centuries now, women since the time  she is born, is been told that she has no right over her family, as she belongs to someone else and that her husband's home is her real home, growing up she struggles to strike a  balance b/w her responsibilities for her paternal home, and preparation for her husband's home..All though a life of women revolves around the wishes of people related to her, which often builds a vacuum in them, or a desire to have things as they like it, which often gets offensive and taken as there ego when it crosses the line of patience.

All her dreams, hope, desires are then what she relates to her partner, and feel one person of her life would give her, comfort her or at least consider her likes dislikes etc. 

Women certainly want admiration and respect, but our deepest desire is to be loved. As the Chazon Ish, a prominent rabbi of the last century, wrote, "A woman's nature is to find favor in her lover's eyes."

We may want our partner to appreciate the clever way we negotiated that last deal or the creative way we redecorated the living room, but love trumps all. Her happiness usually is in the tiniest of moments, the way she cooked food, she stayed awake till late to serve her love a hot meal, notice what she wears, and appreciate her efforts. We’ll forgive many minor transgressions if we have that sense of being treasured, of being cared for. And conversely, nothing is more devastating than the suspicion that we have forfeited our partner’s good will.

Men may think "Didn't I tell her yesterday that I loved her?" "Didn't I take her out for our anniversary?" "Is there any limit to the amount of reassurance a woman needs?" Men, it's really very simple: our deepest desire is to be loved, to get that attention of our love.

There is nothing more frustrating than talking to your partner and feeling like he is a million miles away. Women want to be seen (and complimented on how they look) and desperately need to be heard. Nodding a “yes” to everything doesn’t mean you have proved your love for her...If you hear her, and do even 10% of what she ask, and do it when she is least expecting is, it’s the most beautiful feeling to women. 

When we talk 'listen', it shows us that you care about our feelings. With women communication is the key, so try and talk to us often. Here are some traits we wish men would display - chivalry, making an extra effort with our friends and family, because we do the same! Through clear words and eye contact: "I love you." n aspect of feeling loved is feeling desired.

Cook for us once in a while - this one may sound like a cliché, but we love surprises so an occasional effort wouldn't hurt, would it? We need our man to proclaim love all the time and we leave it to you as to how you wish to show it.

Believe in your wife/girlfriend and support and encourage us in everything we do. Because we tend to see us through others eyes, and want to fill that space of other desires that our related to us.

No matter how accomplished we are, no matter how many tasks we can accomplish on our own, we like to have someone taking care of us, looking out for us, protecting us. I don't need my Partner to kill bugs for me but I do like him to assuage my fears and anxieties and I know I'm not alone. 

An aspect of feeling loved is feeling desired.  If your wife asks you if she looks fat, the answer is ALWAYS no. Even if she's expecting triplets! There is NO myth of honesty in this situation. But more than that, while "You don't look fat" is certainly better than "You could use to lose a few pounds," "You always look beautiful to me" is best of all. "No matter what you weigh, I'll always find you attractive" is also good. And don't stop there. "I like the way that dress looks on you." "Those are great colors." "That's a good style for you." Even an appreciative smile goes a long way. 

There’s no question of this, if you disrespect her you may as well throw the relationship out of the window right now.  It’s not only respect for her but its respect for you as well.  If you let people walk all over you then you are not respecting yourself and this is a turn off for women.

She play All possible roles to comfort her man, from a lover, to a wife, to mother, and support, your 4 am Buddy, trust me she loves playing such roles and this gives her completion, you don’t need to feed her with Diamonds or exotic dinners or lavish cars. The warmth of your arms that massage when she is tired, a smile when she is struggling, or just a mere “Thank you” when she is low, is all she needs.

She might not talk to you for days, or walk out after a fight, or doesn’t talk to u, showing ego, and the pretending the fact that she doesn’t care, or it doesn’t effect her...But it does...All You need to do is tell her that she is needed, and she matter to you, and it does effect you when she is not around..Or that no ego no tiff no ugly fight would ever affect the love you have for her.

They say understanding women, is a puzzle no one has ever been able to crack, but these complexities are just ignorance. 

The one and only way to handle a woman is to love her, simply love her, merely love her, love her, and love her." The day you give her that, women would no longer be a mystery!!

Love- Reality Vs Dreams!!

Love!! Though its a 4 letter word..But nothing's more complicated in this world than it.....

We all live in the illusion of that white horse rider, our handsome prince who would sweep us of our feet..The perfect guy, who is 10 rated star on our wishlist..life looks like a fairytale in his arms..Our soul mate we cant wait to meet..for all those Tarzan n Jane, Romeos n Juliet, who have these thoughts below is the statement which begs to differ:

"He was my North, my South, my East and West, My working week and my Sunday rest, My noon, my midnight, my talk, my song; I thought that love would last for ever: I was wrong" - W.H. Auden

Welcome to the reality!! " When you fall in love, it is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake, and then it subsides. And when it subsides, you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots are become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever par"t - Captain Corelli's Mandolin

When the eyes meet, love strikes, all seems good...hours of waiting for those calls n sms's ...getting up early..waking up late nights!! traveling miles together for just a glimpse..raising of heartbeats when they come close.Getting wet in the rains!! getting cozy in winters, sharing the same tea..and then After the Interval..why the hell are you always late, u don't take my call, i have swollen eyes just waiting for your God dam message..you spoiled my flooring, so on and so forth..

Why is there such a drastic change in the two phases...why is it the things that were once loved, appreciated turn into a sour soup stories!! why cant we have just a normal man, who corporates with us, help us feel needed, we don't need larger than life confessions, just want to feel loved, appreciated for what we do, our efforts to always struggle to be your lover, the strive we do to fit into the role of that perfect wife, an ideal life partner..our compromises to fit your families bills, be the nurturing mother to your kid..and even after handling all those roles, be aside as your GF's when u feel disheartened and low.

For Once can't romeo cry, Tarzan make food, or do things we would like..call unexpectedly just to let us know that they missed us..a sweet msg when we open our eyes..why cant for once a man think that the person who is often to ready to let go of her life in darkness..to see that limelight on you..

Our World not only revolves but wraps around that one person for life..All a women would ever need is a just a statement " Grow old along with me! The best is yet to be"..

I think every women knows the reality her life would offer her, she still chooses to close her eyes, and make that one person the hero of her dreams...

Friendship..How it Helps you to Grow...

My Journey with those special ones......The encounters that would always be close to my Heart <3

The kind of personality I've been, making friends was always a difficult task...As often considered a snob, full of attitude girl, and a no nonsense vibes to an absolute crazy chick, and I often make people repent there first thought about me..
None of my friendship happened to me the usual way..but like they say opposites attract..Ive always tend to knock horns and then stick to people like glue..today just thought of writing down about those special people who have contributed a lot to what and how I am today..
Meaning of Friendship started for me when I was in 7th Grade..my first eva gang of girls: Ayushi,swati, vini, monga..if ayushi got the wildness in my life..swati and vini contributed to stability, laying low, and Monga was my boost (secret of my energy)lol...stayed with these guys for a year, with hope in my eyes I moved to a new school, new life..
New school..first encounter Harsh Bharadwaj (friend, enemy, friend again) one guy who contributed a lot to boost my attitude, and got a sense of competition and the strive to achieve goals..achieving goals was not possible without my viva's : viji, bhala, panwadi, suri, mansi..the girls who not only welcomed me, nurtured me, and were my essential minerals to get through those tough 3 years, when I strived to be a sportsperson..rewards followed in terms of scholarships, achievements..our team, group being considered a best of those times and more..these were a few people who filled me with gratitude, patience, hard work, and spirit to achieve and belive in my potentials..
A fully grown swan..I step into my fairyland.. a school that actually taught me how to live life king size..Another Bunch of friends and now was the time to develop my notorious, punk side..crazy life, crazy friends and endless stories of fun..Popat, chibba, manmeet, neha, harshita, ankita, disha, aasia, sabika, aakriti, ashita...the list gone on n on...I did possibly everything stupid I could have thought of..bunking classes, sharing gossips, crushes, bitching, partying..sleeping on one another, dancing like crazies on Christmas, goof-ups and politics, fame and defame..those 2 years actually helped me explore the inner artistic side and PJ (poor jokes) side of me..
School over..collegeeee..By god's grace I landed into the most happening colleges Eva..and what It gave me is 2 precious people . My 2 besties Madame gosh, and Baru..if one is wild night the other is sunrise..best of both the world who actually gave a defined direction to my life, helped me identify what I wanted to do..on the other hand I had PJ Paji..vikas, saurabh..to spoil me and encourage the super stupid side of me..and how can I forget Adi sir..A man I respect for being a true patriotic guy, to may of disciplines and promises..(A rare to find)
First Job gave me..best of bosses...to a strict Shilpa boss, to a candy Richa boss, to an idealistic Amla Boss..each filling me up with how to be a true professional, to manage work and commitments and the hunger to achieve and prove my worthiness..to add flavours here, my Ambar dhara..vaishali (friend, philosopher, guide) and my mommy Archie to save my ass always when and wherever I got caught..

Job 2 Roller coaster gave me a chance to know 50 odd people..gave me a group of whopping 18 girls..and mera pyar shalimar "JET".nooonoo (dikhaye pe mat jao aapni  akal jagao) ..A female who just filled my life with unpredictable things..with whom all crazy random stuff is justified..She taught me to live life at 1000km/hr at 360 degree..and contributing to the fun were  Akshu, Geetu, Shivu, Sim Sim, Meghu, Golu, Sexy, Bakshi, Nidhi,Grover, Garg.list is endless..

Job 3 I meet worlds coolest boss: Mrs Simmi dutta..no words to define what all I learnt from her..Quality and Quantity recipe of the perfect dish called success..Sonika a chubby, chirpy mommy to be who added a spark of liveliness to work and sim sim part 2 a disguise who come to rescue when in help..

Hang On thats not all!!!!
Here comes the bonanza....The Most Special Of All: "Appy Singh".. he is my supporting actor, my backbone and strongest and the most silent support since 7 years now..A man who I can call at 3am, I can cry, laugh, crib, bitch, shout, hit, share weirdest secrets..My Aladdin ka chirag... A friend without whom life can Neva complete its full circle..we fight like crazies, but at the end, he is my default setting..

Many More who have often Added to me being me are "Harry pattani"; "Tarun and his gang"; "K Jo"; and all those who mean alot to me, and thank you for contributing you crucial Bit in making a crazy formula called "TAN"

At the end this concludes, that I was always a Innocent Angel, sent from God's paradise to do good to the earth..But these guys mentioned above are to be blamed to make the way I am right now... ;)

You All Rock!!!